Life Decisions
🌟 Navigate major personal decisions with clarity and structure.
Life decisions are often the most important and most emotionally charged. ReasonKit helps cut through the emotion to find clarity.
Common Life Questions
Relationships
rk-core think "We've been together 3 years. Partner wants to get married. I'm unsure. What should I consider?" --deep
Family
rk-core think "We're considering having children. Are we ready? What should we think about?" --deep
Health
rk-core think "Doctor recommends [procedure]. What questions should I ask? What should I consider?" --balanced
Life Direction
rk-core think "I'm 30, have a stable career, but feel unfulfilled. What's actually going on?" --deep
Example Analysis
Question: “I’m 35, single, successful career, but everyone asks when I’m settling down. Should I prioritize finding a partner?”
rk-core think "35, single, successful career. Family pressures me about settling down. Should finding a partner be my priority?" --deep
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║ LIFE ANALYSIS: Relationship Priority ║
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│ 💡 GIGATHINK: 15 Perspectives │
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│ 1. DESIRE: Do YOU want a partner, or do OTHERS want it? │
│ 2. TIMELINE: If kids desired, biology is a factor │
│ 3. LONELINESS: Are you lonely, or just alone? │
│ 4. FULFILLMENT: What specifically feels missing? │
│ 5. SOCIAL: Is this about belonging or partnership? │
│ 6. IDENTITY: Is "successful single" an identity you like?│
│ 7. OPPORTUNITY: What would you sacrifice for dating? │
│ 8. PATTERNS: Why are you single? By choice or failure? │
│ 9. ALTERNATIVES: Fulfillment without traditional path? │
│ 10. PRESSURE: Are you reacting to external expectations? │
│ 11. COMPARISON: Comparing to friends' timelines? │
│ 12. HISTORY: What do past relationships teach you? │
│ 13. GROWTH: What personal work would help you partner? │
│ 14. MARKET: Are you dating? What's working/not working? │
│ 15. VALUES: What does "partner" mean to you specifically?│
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│ ⚡ LASERLOGIC: Hidden Assumptions │
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│ FLAW: "Everyone asks" │
│ → Other people's questions are about THEIR discomfort │
│ → Their timeline isn't your timeline │
│ → "Normal" varies dramatically by culture/context │
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│ FLAW: "Should prioritize" │
│ → Binary framing: career OR relationship │
│ → Many people have both without "prioritizing" either │
│ → Dating doesn't require abandoning career │
│ │
│ FLAW: "Settling down" │
│ → Implies current state is unsettled/wrong │
│ → Framing assumes partnership = stability │
│ → Many partnered people are less settled than singles │
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│ 🪨 BEDROCK: The Core Questions │
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│ THREE QUESTIONS THAT MATTER: │
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│ 1. Do you WANT a partner (regardless of what others say)?│
│ → If yes: Why haven't you found one? What's blocking? │
│ → If no: Why are you asking this question? │
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│ 2. Do you want children? │
│ → If yes: Timeline matters biologically │
│ → If no/unsure: Less time pressure │
│ │
│ 3. What's actually missing from your life right now? │
│ → Partner may or may not solve it │
│ → Be specific: companionship? family? status? │
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│ 🔥 BRUTALHONESTY: Reality Check │
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│ UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH 1: │
│ You're asking this question, which means you're not │
│ 100% confident in your current path. That's worth │
│ examining honestly. │
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│ UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH 2: │
│ "Successful career" is sometimes a deflection from │
│ doing the emotional work relationships require. │
│ It's easier to excel at work than at intimacy. │
│ │
│ UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH 3: │
│ If you wanted a partner badly enough, you'd be actively │
│ pursuing one. The fact that you're not suggests either: │
│ a) You don't actually want one that much, or │
│ b) Something is blocking you that you're not addressing │
│ │
│ UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH 4: │
│ 35 is not "running out of time," but it IS a time when │
│ the dating pool dynamics change. Ignoring this fact │
│ is different from deciding it doesn't matter to you. │
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│ HONEST QUESTIONS: │
│ • When was your last serious relationship attempt? │
│ • What happened? │
│ • If a perfect partner appeared tomorrow, would you │
│ make room in your life? │
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SYNTHESIS:
This isn't a prioritization question—it's a self-knowledge question.
1. If you genuinely want a partner: Start actively dating with intent.
Your career won't suffer from a few hours a week.
2. If you genuinely don't: Stop asking the question. Set boundaries
with people who pressure you. Own your choice.
3. If you're unsure: That's the real issue. Explore what you actually
want before deciding how to pursue it.
The family pressure is noise. What matters is what YOU want.
Life-Specific Profile
[profiles.life]
tools = ["gigathink", "laserlogic", "bedrock", "proofguard", "brutalhonesty"]
gigathink_perspectives = 15
laserlogic_depth = "deep"
brutalhonesty_severity = "high"
timeout = 300
Pro Tip: ReasonKit Pro adds
highreflectfor deeper meta-cognition and bias analysis.
Life Decision Framework
ReasonKit helps you distinguish:
| Question Type | What It Really Asks |
|---|---|
| “Should I do X?” | Do I WANT X? (desire) |
| “Is it time for X?” | Is this MY timeline or others’? |
| “Am I ready for X?” | What would ready look like? |
| “Is X the right choice?” | By whose definition of right? |
Common Life Biases
| Bias | Example | ReasonKit Response |
|---|---|---|
| Social comparison | “Friends are married” | Your timeline isn’t theirs |
| Sunk cost | “We’ve been together 8 years” | Future matters more than past |
| Status quo | “This is comfortable” | Comfort ≠ right |
| External validation | “Everyone says…” | What do YOU say? |
Sensitive Topics
ReasonKit can help with difficult questions:
- Grief: Processing loss decisions
- Health: Medical decision support
- Relationships: Honest assessment
- Identity: Life direction questions
For mental health crises, please contact professional support. ReasonKit is for decision clarity, not therapy.
Tips for Life Analysis
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Be honest in your question — The real question may differ from what you type
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Include context — Age, situation, constraints all matter
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Use deep or paranoid — Life decisions deserve thorough analysis
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Focus on BrutalHonesty — It usually surfaces what you’re avoiding
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Sleep on it — Run analysis, wait 24 hours, then decide